Products
Femmax Vaginal Dilator Set With DVD for $29.95 USD
This is the cheapest set out of the bunch, but it only comes in 4 different sizes, which can be uncomfortable when progressing to larger sizes. It does, however, come with an instructional DVD, which is helpful for those who are treating their Vaginismus without the help of a doctor.
CalExotics Inspire Silicone Dilators for $42.99 USD
This is a great, cost-effective silicone dilator set. However, there are only 5 sizes when most sets come with at least 6.
Vaginismus.com Vaginal Trainer Set for $44.95 USD
This is a great, cost-effective medical grade vaginal dilator set. It has 6 sizes, starting with one smaller than a tampon. However, they are plastic so they aren’t as comfortable as silicone.
Vaginismus.com Vaginismus Treatment Kit for $90.95 USD
This kit includes the Home Treatment Program (2 Book Set), Vaginal Trainer Set, Vaginismus Instructional DVD, and Vaginismus Private Forum Pass. Great resource for those who are treating their vaginismus without the help of a doctor.
Soul Source Silicone Vaginal Dilators – Full Set for $209.99 USD
While considerably more expensive than the Vaginismus.com set, it is higher quality and comes in 8 sizes as opposed to 4 or 6. Good investment set.
Milli Vaginal Dilator for $249.99 USD
Milli is the first expanding vaginal dilator. Expanding in millimeter increments, the dilation experience is gradual and gentle. While pricy, it is supposed to be the most gentle dilator on the market. If you are especially sensitive to the increasing sizes of dilators or want to go super slowly for maximum comfort, this might be the dilator for you.
(C has an initial review of the Milli on her blog.)
Yes Yes Yes Double Glide Lubricant for $23.99 USD
While it claims to cure vaginismus, this is necessarily the case because science says only dilators and pelvic floor therapy can cure it. It is, however, an excellent lubricant that can help penetration become easier. IMPORTANT NOTE: It is NOT condom compatible!
Foria Wellness Awaken Lubricant for $48.00 USD
Experience the world’s first intimate massage oil made with broad-spectrum CBD, kava kava extract, and synergistic botanical & aromatic oils. This multi-aphrodisiac blend is formulated for women, to enhance tactile sensation & pleasure while decreasing tension, discomfort and dryness.
Ohnut Rings for $65.00 USD
Worn externally at the base of a penetrating partner (ex. shaft or toy), Ohnut compresses down to act as a soft buffer during sex. Each set comes with 4 linking rings that allow you to make simple adjustments, so you and your partner can not only discover comfort but also what depths feel really good—for both of you.
Thirdlove Bras starting at $68.00 USD
A good bra can make you feel like a million bucks. Coming in 76 different sizes, Thirdlove has an amazing selection of bras. Get your perfect bra here.
Frederick’s of Hollywood Lingerie starting at $5.00 USD
Lingerie is a great way to feel sexy when vaginismus makes you feel distinctly unsexy. Ranging from XS to 2X, Frederick’s of Hollywood has super sexy lingerie in affordable prices.
Adam and Eve Vibrators starting at $7.95 USD
When sex is painful, take control of your sex life with vibrators. Adam and Eve has a large selection of vibrators that stimulate the clitoris instead of being inserted.
Websites
Vaginismus.com is a great resource for anything regarding the condition. While they primarily focus on women, it is a comprehensive resource that is a must-visit. They even sell a medical grade dilator kit with accompanying booklet for $44.95 USD (p
Vaginismus Facebook Support Group
If you’re on Facebook, this closed and private group is very supportive and encouraging. It has over 2000 members and is the group that inspired this project!
Faces of Vaginismus Support Group
This is our personal support group! If you don’t feel comfortable sharing your story on here, please consider posting it in the group! We’re still growing the group, but hopefully you can find it supportive!
This user-submitted site is great for stories of those with the condition, resources, and overall a supportive atmosphere.
Adam and Eve has a great selection of sexy movies. Becoming aroused often helps vaginal dilators be inserted more easily. Watch a sexy movie by yourself or with a partner and give those dilators a little extra help.
Resources for Partners
This user-submitted site is for partners of those with vaginismus. If your partner needs some support or help in feeling less alone, this is a great resource.
Vaginismus Partners Facebook Support Group
While we are not a members of this private, closed Facebook group (it’s only for partners of those with Vaginismus), members of the Vaginismus Support Group say that their partners have found this group helpful for support and encouragement.
9 Ways To Be More Supportive To A Partner Who Has Vaginismus
This is a great article about what you can do for your partner that has vaginismus. A must read.
A Conversation With My Partner About My Vaginismus
A great, quick read about what one woman says to her partner about her vaginismus. Hopefully some insights can be found here.
How Not Being Able to Have Sex Redefined My Sexuality — and Dating Life
This article is written from the perspective of a woman with vaginismus and gives some tips on how to have a healthy sex life while your partner’s vaginismus is being treated.
Books
Private Pain by by Ditza Katz, PT, PhD and Ross Lynn Tabisel, LCSW, PhD
This book, which includes extensive explanations, real – life stories of patients and partners, and treatment options, should be of great value to sufferers, partners, family members, healthcare professionals and spiritual leaders who will now be able to better understand the nature and management of these conditions.
Parting the Curtains: A Woman’s Handbook of Sex and Sexuality by Ditza Katz, PT, PhD and Ross Lynn Tabisel, LCSW, PhD
A practical, reader-friendly guide, with up-to-date information and a good dose of self-respect that will help every woman age 25 and older navigate her sexual journey. Whether you use this book as a reference, an educational tool, or a preventive manual, our aim is that it will answer your questions in a way that embraces female sexuality without medicalizing or sensationalizing it. This book can also be used by mental health and medical professionals, as well as by members of the clergy, for counseling individuals and couples grappling with sexual difficulties.
Stop Painful Sex: Healing from Vaginismus. A Step-by-Step Guide by Maree Stachel-Williamson
A book for women suffering from vaginismus and loved ones who want to help them. This book will help you understand vaginismus and take you through a healing step-by-step process that you can take in your own time. Discover more about your individual situation through exercises, techniques and workbook questions that will guide you towards having an enjoyable sex life. Comprehensive, informative and straightforward – this book will give you the tools you need to take the matter into your own hands.
When Sex Seems Impossible: Stories of Vaginismus & How You Can Achieve Intimacy by by
This book offers important medical information and first-person stories, including a new treatment option that has helped over ninety percent of Pacik and Cole’s patients with severe vaginismus overcome this condition to go on to have pain-free, intimate relationships. Their treatment of vaginismus has put them in contact with patients from around the world and many different cultures. While each patient is unique, their stories evoke common themes-the shame of not being able to experience intercourse; guilt over lost relationships; a deep fear that their childbearing years will come and go. The stories shared by these women moved me deeply, and I felt their voices needed to be heard.
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D
While not necessarily about vaginismus, this book is absolutely incredible, an essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. It is a sex-positive, body-positive gem. When Candace read it, she wanted to get a bunch of copies and hand them out to women on the street. Emily Nagoski, Ph.D does a fantastic job of explaining exactly how and why you’re normal with science and anecdotes from her practice. Do yourself a favor and get your hands on this book.
Visual Media
Documentary artist Laura Dodsworth photographs women and hears their intimate, shocking, moving, powerful or funny stories about how their vaginas have shaped their lives. It’s a great way to increase your appreciation of your vagina when sometimes it feels like it’s failed you.
This is an episode of Discovery TLC about Vaginismus that has been featured on Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN).
Is there a resource we missed that you found helpful? Email us at facesofvaginismus [at] gmail.com! We’d love to put it on the site!
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