I’ve noticed a lot of people are wondering about dilators. What are they, how do you buy them, and how the heck do you use them? This article will explain all of that. This is your crash course on everything dilators! What Are Dilators? Dilators are plastic, silicone, or glass objects that simulate a tampon or a penis, that gradually increase in size. They’re used … Continue reading Dilators 101: A Basic Overview
When you have vaginismus, it’s easy to feel as if your body has betrayed you. It feels out of your control — and in a way it is. It’s the involuntary spasm of your pelvic floor muscles, like blinking when something gets close to your eye. But it’s important to know that your body is perfect the way it is, vaginismus or no. And I … Continue reading Your Vagina Is Perfect And I Can Prove It
When you have vaginismus, shame seems to its constant shadow, falling behind it like a dutiful dog. It can color every aspect of how you feel about yourself and your relationship if you have a partner, damaging your self-esteem. You may feel that you’re “less of a woman.” You may feel humiliation that your body isn’t cooperating. You may feel scared that you’ll be “broken” forever. … Continue reading Defeating Shame With Brene Brown
In my teens, I had a very healthy sex life along with pain free sex. Once I hit 20, I noticed severe pain around the vaginal opening and trouble getting anything in including tampons. I brushed it off for 8 months until I went in to see a gynecologist for my yearly checkup. The doctor noticed I was in extreme pain, sweating, tearing up when … Continue reading Auburn Haired Beauty
Broken. Defective. Ashamed. Alone.
All of these are often felt when you have vaginismus.
But guess what? You aren’t broken and defective. You don’t have to feel ashamed. And you certainly aren’t alone. It is said that 1 in 100 to 1 in 16 women experience vaginismus. Continue reading A Letter to You
Hi! My name is J and I have vaginismus! The technical definition for the term is vaginal tightness causing discomfort, burning, pain, penetration problems, or complete inability to have intercourse. I got married at 21 years old. I was so in love and ready to experience every aspect of marriage with my husband. On our wedding night, losing my virginity was way more painful than … Continue reading Purple Haired Beauty
My name is S and I am from India and belong to a traditional family. I am a 28 years old software developer working in a firm. I got married in November 2017. The photo is of the same day. And the reason I am sending this photo is, it was this day that actually changed everything for me. Vaginismus actually helped me to understand … Continue reading The Indian Beauty
I didn’t realise I had Vaginismus until my wedding night (I was a virgin) and nothing seemed to work. I didn’t have a great sex education, so I wasn’t sure why I couldn’t have intercourse and in turn thought something was wrong with me and I was too ashamed to ask anyone about it. I retreated into myself and my husband and I found other … Continue reading The Beauty With a Nose Ring
At first, I thought I was normal. Sure, I had the telltale early primary symptom of vaginismus- an inability at a young age to insert a tampon. I assumed everyone shared my struggle. Surely all girls felt my pain, and felt like the tampon was hitting a wall. I presumed they just powered through the pain; a task too monstrous for me to ever consider. I only learnt that … Continue reading Big Eyed Beauty
My story sort of began when I was 12 years old. I got my period for the first time and tried to use a tampon but couldn’t really get it in properly and it hurt. I was a competitive swimmer at the time so spent every day at the pool. I decided I had to learn how to use tampons as I couldn’t just take … Continue reading Brown Haired Beauty
Hi, I am a face of vaginismus. Mine is primary and was most likely caused by religious upbringing and other medical issues such as vulvodynia. Stay strong and be an advocate for your body! Here is my story below: My story began as a young girl who had just started her period. My mother bought pads, but one day said I should try tampons, so … Continue reading University Beauty
Hi! I’m 18 and a mother to a son. I have secondary vaginismus, through sexual assaults/rapes through out the ages of 15-17. Here’s my face, I hope as I am young it might be a source of comfort to any other younger girls with this condition. –J, 18 years old, United Kingdom Continue reading Young Beauty
Faces of Vaginismus 